“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.”
Life is often full of uncertainty, stress, and emotional upheaval. This can lead us to our having problems forming and maintaining relationships, feeling fearful, angry, lonely, hopeless, and at times, helpless.
Our capacity to deal and cope with these challenges initially develops in early childhood, through our relationships with others.
Some of the ways we have learned to adapt to emotionally, mentally, and physically survive may mean we end up feeling empty, lost, and unfulfilled. We may experience this in our relationships with others – partners, children, parents, friends, work colleagues – or feel that there is something wrong with us. We find it difficult to feel fully in contact with ourselves and with others.
If any of this sounds familiar, then counselling or psychotherapy can help by providing time and space for you to understand yourself, your experience, and your unmet needs, in collaboration with an empathic, attuned, and qualified therapist who puts you at the centre of the therapeutic work. I believe therapy provides the conditions for change allowing you to fully be yourself, to accept yourself, and to unleash your potential – to become you.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”
What I can help with:
I have worked with a wide range of people and problems, both online and face-to-face. Find out more about the way I work here.
Adverse childhood experiences, childhood trauma
Anxiety, including social anxiety, stress, and panic attacks
Bereavement, grief, and loss
Depression, low mood
Identity, including gender and sexual identity
Life stage changes (eg adolescence, motherhood, middle age, menopause, retirement)
Relationship problems, including attachment issues
Self-esteem, self-worth, and lack of confidence
I am a qualified therapeutic counsellor accredited with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. I also have a Masters in Psychology from Roehampton University and am currently undertaking doctoral training in Counselling Psychology at Metanoia Institute, London.
“In my early professional years I was asking the question: ‘How can I treat, or cure, or change this person?’ Now I would phrase the question in this way: ‘How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?’”